Life is like a good novel and a new chapter is what you might need to shake things up.
By: Cashondra "Cash" Roberson
By: Cashondra "Cash" Roberson
When I started college, my dad jokingly told me to “go find myself”. Though I did not take him seriously at the time (being 18-years-old and eager to begin a new chapter in life), it took me four years to truly start my journey of self-discovery. I cannot say there was some near death experience, awful fallout or tough breakup that kicked off my journey (though all of those things did take place at some point). I will say it was a collection of events, decisions, and lessons that were yet to be learned that ultimately led me to really take the time and get to know Cashondra....who ever she might be.
So if you are about to embark on a new chapter in life, perhaps just finishing one or maybe you have not even opened the book of “You” yet, here are some ways I discovered things about myself. Hopefully you too can become more in tune with who you are and maybe even find your greater purpose in life.
1. Make a PrOmise to Yourself
You cannot expect to have a body like Beyonce or Tyson Beckford without committing yourself to working out right?
Well the same can be said for finding yourself! Make a promise to make changes in your life that will ultimately benefit you in the best way. Tell them to supporting friends or family who will hold you accountable to that promise and will also be there to lean on when you find yourself wavering.
Well the same can be said for finding yourself! Make a promise to make changes in your life that will ultimately benefit you in the best way. Tell them to supporting friends or family who will hold you accountable to that promise and will also be there to lean on when you find yourself wavering.
2. God BLOCKED IT
Just like the good Lord blocks certain things out of your life, you have to
BLOCK certain PEOPLE
out of yours!
Some of you are professional blockers. You can block someone on all social media and block them from your inbox at the drop of a hat. However, if you are like me and never really utilized the block feature God blessed smartphone users with…well now is the time. Block any negative person or anyone who triggers some of those bad habits you promised yourself to change. You would be surprised how many people you have to go back and block as the weeks go by. After your inbox goes through the initial dry spell, you will definitely notice the amount of non-sense you received on a daily basis and a significant mood improvement.
BLOCK certain PEOPLE
out of yours!
Some of you are professional blockers. You can block someone on all social media and block them from your inbox at the drop of a hat. However, if you are like me and never really utilized the block feature God blessed smartphone users with…well now is the time. Block any negative person or anyone who triggers some of those bad habits you promised yourself to change. You would be surprised how many people you have to go back and block as the weeks go by. After your inbox goes through the initial dry spell, you will definitely notice the amount of non-sense you received on a daily basis and a significant mood improvement.
3. Occupy Your Time
It is time to get yourself a hobby.
Maybe you have something you loved to do but stopped. Maybe there is something you have always wanted to try but never really had the time to. Well with your new promises and added free time from blocking half of your inbox, there is no time like the present!
Go somewhere you have always wanted to go, read, write, learn a new craft or perfect an old one. There are plenty of things I would have never done without making the decision to try things I enjoy such as attending church frequently, reading more about subjects that interest me or relate to me, writing poetry whenever I felt inspired, keeping a prayer journal, teaching myself how to DJ and even volunteering to write this article!
What better way to discover yourself than to do things that make you happy?
Maybe you have something you loved to do but stopped. Maybe there is something you have always wanted to try but never really had the time to. Well with your new promises and added free time from blocking half of your inbox, there is no time like the present!
Go somewhere you have always wanted to go, read, write, learn a new craft or perfect an old one. There are plenty of things I would have never done without making the decision to try things I enjoy such as attending church frequently, reading more about subjects that interest me or relate to me, writing poetry whenever I felt inspired, keeping a prayer journal, teaching myself how to DJ and even volunteering to write this article!
What better way to discover yourself than to do things that make you happy?
4. Let It Go
Let it Go! Let it Goooo! Cliché, but helpful.
It is time to let some things go. Not just habits or people, but your state of mind.
Let that hurt go!
Seriously, any thoughts that distract you, feelings you let plague relationships, or even negative people that may be influencing you. Whether its temporary or permanent, giving up certain things was the best thing I could ever do for myself. Discipline is a virtue in my eyes and fasting from social media for a week and even recently making the decision to be celibate has helped me in areas I did not even know were connected to each other. Getting better control over your behavior, so you can end the patterns that keep hindering you is a “Major Key” to finding peace and becoming the person you have longed to be!
It is time to let some things go. Not just habits or people, but your state of mind.
Let that hurt go!
Seriously, any thoughts that distract you, feelings you let plague relationships, or even negative people that may be influencing you. Whether its temporary or permanent, giving up certain things was the best thing I could ever do for myself. Discipline is a virtue in my eyes and fasting from social media for a week and even recently making the decision to be celibate has helped me in areas I did not even know were connected to each other. Getting better control over your behavior, so you can end the patterns that keep hindering you is a “Major Key” to finding peace and becoming the person you have longed to be!
Hopefully these four steps will help you be the best you and if you find yourself slacking or getting off course, do not beat yourself up! Recognize the problem and correct it. Like my Pastor Danny M. Donaldson says, "it is better to kill something at seed form than to try once it has fully grown into something huge"!
“When you’re disciplined, obedient, and faithful, God will bring you the full manifestation of what he has in mind for you.” – Devon Franklin & Tim Vandehey
“When you’re disciplined, obedient, and faithful, God will bring you the full manifestation of what he has in mind for you.” – Devon Franklin & Tim Vandehey
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